One time I walked into the LR I found the dog laying with her back against the sofa and watched him laying facing her and placing her legs on his side. Take the high road and start showing a little more love all around. He was darn right nasty to her most times. I had always boarded my pets, knowing they didnt particularly like it, but they were safe and fed and were happy to see me when I returned. Id guess the number is zero. He keeps saying that there is something wrong with him. I have wondered if Im going to keep the relationship. Okay since then my 3 kids and I have moved twice and recently moved into a home and my boyfriend of 6 months has moved in with us. The good majority of comments from women are posted out of emotion rather than from a rational point of view. And to be Honest I dont really mind his dog that much anymore just knowing that he stands and supports me, not the dog is helpful because now I know that dog doesnt come before me or any human for that matter. In my experience, if you both dont see pets in the same light, I am fearful for you, that this pet will only cause more issues than your own happiness in this relationship, especially if you will be far away from family and friends. Hope you found this helpful. Youre better off without him and dont deserve that. Only commitment and effort (and prayer if youre a believer) will really work. me and my partner both had dogs before we got together , he had 5 me 2 . However, the time comes that we are going to live on our own, which means he wants to have his dogs over there. The whole time They were at that shelter I had zero peace of mind. (I did not blame the dog, but my cat died a terrible death and I was devastated.). I am intelligent, pretty, and slim. She wants to please and have my approval, and I researched ways to train, so I think most bad dogs have bad lazy owners. Were up to 6 medium to large holes in the carpet. They come with all their own little quirks and needs and personality traits. Im standing firm & want him to go to my therapist with me so perhaps she can explain it to him better than I am. And one of the dogs, also keeps drinking from the toilet and chews up garbage from the trash can in the bathroom, even underwear! I am sad to say that these differences are ending my marriage but at the same time, I will be glad to say good riddance to someone who is so shallow that they let dog hair on the couch upset them. Much like a child that begged for a dog and the dog then became the mothers problem. What shall I do? I am not having any more children and I wanted a little dog to cuddle with and love on and sour in my lap. I cant take the smell, the constant whining, crying and begging, the accidents and just the overrall attitude of this king dog. She has this dog that is very poorly trained, basically not trained at all. What about my feelings. Overall the dog has adapted very well. Thank you for being so real. Why on earth do people insist on doing this??? I feel they are the ugliest breed as well as they drool, nasty! I work too many long hours and its not fair to the pets. Other than that, what are you doing demanding that he banish his dog from his home? They have personalities as people do and understand boundaries. It does a good job pissing my dog off too, while it constantly paces about the kitchen looking for food. They are the selfish ones with no respect. I actually love our dogs. She gets the carpets all muddy and has torn up the backyard of our home and the landlord is mad. I just want him to be happy. I cant complain about her because everyone that sees her loves her. The whole alpha thing has been disproved, so that is a moot point. .i dont think you should let him make that choice. Its truly an epidemic! She did say she was open to having me help train him to break the pattern, but I still feel like shes just gotten too comortable with the convenience of dropping her dog off at her parents house. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and I absolutely 100% do not like his dog. They are not. I felt exactly the same way, and loved my boyfriends dog before we actually moved in together. But, there are enough anecdotes, both here and buried in other articles, that show dog fanaticism like any fanaticism is unhealthy. My girlfriend, not the dog. (2012, January 11). vocally, he is loud in the middle of the night, and first thing in the morning, until he has the ability to be right next to her. How many times have we apologized for getting into a bad fight only to get into another one a week later when he throws it in my face. I said I would not get married if she slept in the bed. Shes fine if its her telling his backstory, but I only have so much time in terms of making suggestions or offering to help. Ive been with my fiance for two years. You cant expect someone to clean up dog s*** and dog p*** everyday and live in a house that smells worse than a kennel! Like a lot of you, anything you put in your mouth she expected a piece of it. I am a light sleeper and cannot sleep with snoring (she is a pug and snores quite loud), not to mention Ive never liked having a dog sleep in my room. We still get married but live apart i ask?..his response was yeah i guess so but that really sux! I think its a big mistake to get involved with someone who has a dog if they hate hate hate fur! Actually I believe he may have been a narcissist. I dont know well see how it goes after today. Or am i being unreasonable and mean for not wanting to live in a situation like that? If you dont set limits, the dog thinks its a pack leader. Sorry if this posted more than once, I had some trouble trying to post it. I brought a cat into the relationship and she brought a French Bulldog. Before my husband came into my life not liking animals was a deal breaker for me. If someone wants to to change/abandon such a big part of your life it is a huge wake up call. But a change as simple as teaching your dog not to beg or keeping your cat off the bookshelf could remedy the issue. Or you can buy a toddler bed. I DISAGREE.. why would you allow your pet to ruin expensive stuff that did not belong to you and pee everywhere? He never ever listens and never obeys! Apologizing and thinking we can both move on didnt do the trick either. The dog would nip at the husband whenever he tried to get near his wife to show her affection. That is a different matter. Visit a shelter "just for fun.". Its to the point now where I have no desire to sleep over her condo anymore. The same paws they use to trample on s*** and p*** are the same paws they walk all over your bed with. I knew she had them, and I honestly didnt think it would be a problem. First of all, its NOT cool that your bf yells at his dog and doesnt treat her well. Just changed some psychology in my way of thinking and its not that important. Your right.. And the point is that we soon might be go live on our (as we are staying with friends until we can financially afford to live on our own), and of course he wants his dogs! . She pulled through, and I have never yelled or hit her again. Your partners is jealous of your relationship with your dog,he knows his comments upset you,can you make him stop? It didnt matter if it was a little one which we bought her or the big one we used for travel with our older dog. He will be terrible un-happy if he gets rid of them but as I said Im totally unhappy with them being at home. So over time, I became very resentful and frustrated! I was even letting the dog outside, feeding it etc. These people can not see that they are the actual issue. The fact that this dog is so unmannerly and disobedient bothers the shit out of me!!! )this dog is awful! But they always had strict boundaries, training and manners. Dog is his bbf, his baby. Its not the dogs: its the people, and its not us, its them. I had them for years. im just not sure i can make it till hes no longer in the picture. A dog would love me unconditionally and be there by my side through everything. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Not to mention how he cuddles and talks to his dog all evening. Im not a person who is fond of energetic animals in general though, which is why I prefer the quiet calmness of cats. I enjoy cuddling her. Otherwise, the dog was great. My dog is a very important to me, and I feel like he just doesnt get it. I questioned myself as a woman. None of the begging nonsense excessive unnecessary barking etcfast forward. Im glad Im not the only one who feels this way about a dog. But apparently it was my fault because she walked in front of me while I was looking Ina store window. Just to note for you dog lovers out there (not meant in a derogatory way) the dog is just happy, didnt cry, moan or anything at all in the following nights which surprised her. When they aggressively beg and whine for food and its talking. We once hired a dog-sitter who said shed never sit for them again because their list of needs is so extensive. I want to have a fresh start together and build a happy marriage and we want to start a family. At once, while moving along, you see your puppy, Breeds Starting With A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z, Contact Me | About Me | Privacy Policy | Disclaimer | Site Map. Having a fenced yard would really help. I hadnt heard from him in 2 days which is not normal. Thanks. Most of these problems come from women, judging by these posts, who overly love their pets and cant seem to compromise other than say if hes not a pet person we cant have a successful relationship. I believe women need to stop giving dogs human characteristics and treat them like an animal. This whole allergy thing started out when his parents looked after our cat during a month-long overseas trip we took when a friend of mine could no longer live up to her commitment in the last minute. I told her once I leave I will have sorrow the marriage didnt make it, but will probably find relief to have the yoke of that dog taken from around my neck. If you dont agree then thats why youre single. Why get a dog in the first place then??? Good for you! My husband lets them sleep in the bed. He licks himself all day and that bathroom smells so bad I cant stand going in there. Because shes a dog. These men, are looney! when he went to look at the puppies before we got the dog i kept saying to him no dogs but he never listened , he is caged while we are at work and the other day he didnt lock him up and you guess it he had weeweed in 5 different places around the house. That does not mean you cant have a relationship with your pet or love it but like my girlfriend she lets the dog sleep on the bed and when it poops and pees theres a small useless punishment behind it. But Im not. He compliments the dog and acts like its his actual girlfriend. My wifes stupid dog (125lb German Shepherd) attacked our son and she STILL lets him around our son when I leave the house. I have never felt so belittled and so not in control of my own dog. Have you spoken to her about this and about how you feel? They arent children or babies. It alters the relationship. He wants him to be an outside dog when we get a house but I cant stand the idea. Id rather be covered in dirt to be frank. She was too in love with her dogs to have a human relationship. Dogs shouldnt be on a human bed anyways, they need to have their own. We would take her to local parks and walks all the time. Mans worst friend: Average dog causes 2,000 family arguments in its lifetime. because thats BS ALL hairy animals that spend time both inside and out do. Im in the same boat! It was fine until the dog got older and bigger. Be there to listen and learn, not to pressure your daughter into doing what you want. I agree accidents can happen. I really do believe that people who treat there dogs like humans need counseling. Please treat them as such. I have tried so hard to acclimate to her, but I feel deep resentment that is only getting worse. So Steve got the puppy, did well to take care of it, for the first month or so. That wasnt good enough, he wanted him out of the bedroom. But Im stuck in my own little hell with this. I cant deal with this dog anymore but my boyfriend wont even consider finding another better home for her. No thanks! My situation felt so nuts, I felt as though I was going insane to the point I sought counseling because I loved my DH. He told me to tell him what to do and that he would wear an earplug to protect his ear but he doesnt always want to live up to that promise and starts yelling at the dog again. If I went next door and saw another woman and she gave me a good meal, I wouldnt suddenly be in love with her and tell my girlfriend its over. The Japanese Chin has bitten nine other people that include young children and adults and most of those bites have broken the skin. I'm a total cat person and I don't see the appeal of a dog that constantly wants attention. Never cleaned and they sleep together, and he had insisted that doggy was in my 7000 bed ruining my Hermes bedding (bf said my problem). I have prayed He would take her. My SO and I have been together for 4.5 yrs and he moved in 3.5yrs ago with his cat. Its causing me anxiety when ever I come home. My partner has two dogs and as much as they are cute I can not stand them for me everyday is a struggle, I cant stand the smell (dogs have this natural odor I hate), I cant stand the begging the dog hairs everywhere, the constant attention seeking. He has only visited them a few times in the past months. He is confined to his bed and his yard and it makes me sick. I can put myself in his shoes in many ways but not with that thing. Dogs need attention , training and affection. I recall another day where she told the dog I love you a total of 26 times, when our child and myself were in the same room, nothin. As we prepare for dinner, long and behold her dog is right there between us ready to eat as well! Everyone loves him and he is the most loveable,obedient dog ever. I read nearly all of these comments, and I can totally relate to the frustration, because I too live with a dog that has a MYRIAD of biological/anxiety issues (and also sheds, drools, etc). to help and support them in ways that animals cannot. (and the current caretakers dont want to keep them, they are also tired with all the pee and poop and hairs, so thats not an option). When I was pregnant he wouldnt take the dog off the bed even though I have asthma & I was pregnant at the time. And I can reach out and pet them or even snuggle them and still be in a dog-free bed with my boyfriend. She does only what he has allowed all this time because of how his past relationships have gone. Fortunately he does and so the worst thing that happens is a few flecks of grey showing up on black clothes! Anyway she left last nite and was angry about the way I answered her about some thing. When hes annoying her dog too much with trying to get on her we tell him to stop and he stops. We are both big-time dog people and love being around furry friends. Im starting to feel resentment and dont know how to deal with this as I love the dog and hes well trained etc. I love some dogs, like my own, but I do not love chihuahuas. Giving priority to the dog over the husband. All I am asking for is to sleep without a dog in my room. I HATE THIS DOG! Scenario: Met and married my partner with the understanding that he cares for a dependent brother who has not worked through psychosomatic issues. I need only to say No and she stops. Another year passed and my girlfriend and I decided to move in together. Im in a high security high stress job. I was very harsh dragging her by the leash when she wouldnt come and spanking her what she pottied in the house.the day I got her for shots she was so small and not very healthy that she got sick. And beau can sense it. I hate how they steal food from the counter and nose around for more. They cannot talk. You may have rescued a dog if it was in immediate, imminent danger, which is unlikely in my experience (this is an overused term by dog fanatics to show fake altruism). The other issue is she is so lazy with him. No go. So I consciously made an effort to not make high pitch sounds and to say hi to hubs first. Any chance of me getting attached to his dog flew out the window when he nipped at my son. I put him a doggie bed beside of ours and he slept there. I knew she shed before I moved in but I had hoped to stay on top of it more when actually living here. My house (which I paid for) will be destroyed, but it doesnt matter because its just a house. Jake- Your so right on. She would say shes going to adhere to boundaries so we could all live in harmony but would go against that shortly afterwards so we would always butt heads because she would never keep her word. Gosh I fear that youre right :-( It does seem like my story is basically an echo of all the other stories. IMO, dogs are meant to live with families and do better in environments where they are allowed some independence and interaction with more than just one person. Ive built them a damn good warn dog house and theyve adapted to the change. When he does try he acts sad the whole time like Im mean and hes done a mean thing to her. Pretty over it all. Your dignity as a woman is being stripped away and the relationship he has with his dog is unnatural and borderline wrong. Litter boxes are so useful when training tiny puppies, as they dont know how to use bathrooms. We have to take my car everywhere because his is so full of hair. My story is similar to all of yours in which your SO is in love with their pet. But you can break free of that abusive situation once you see the whole picture, the picture that we are all trying to help you to see. Its unfortunate and I wish I could fix him.. but I cant. Once I trained him after s few months, fast forward to 5 years. They think its ok to be controlling but dont like it when that is challenged for good reasons. He was nasty to her at times, but I chalked it up to the fact that my dog had a different daddy before him (hahaha). I feel NO PEACE OR HARMONY WITH THAT LITTLE DEMON THING. He gets punished for that? Shes a DOG. When we met he never told me he was a pet lover. i know its what dogs do, but the other one doesnt sit and beg. Yup, dog is still there. Anyway, I walked downstairs to give him a phone call and find him on his knees next to her on the dog bed. This is real, hard, continuous effort and I believe that this is why some people give up on their human relationship and turn their efforts and affections towards animals. So, there is no need to change. Quite amusing when everyone here is acting as though human loyalty and monogamy is just something coded deeply into our genes. Im at a loss.! There have been instances while I have not been home that my dog will pee on the floor when he wants her to go outside or if he walks into the room (this has happened 5 times over 2 years). Understood. I will on my own hide the ball after a significant amount of play time but all that happens is the Boston will run around in desperate and panicked fashion looking for it and my girlfriend will ultimately give it to him. I havent quite looked the same. Is there any way we could train my dog to be obediant with my husband just so this will stop. He eats my dogs food all the time. I have two Pitts, one I have had for 5 years, the other for 10 years. I wonder if its possible to have a healthy relationship with a Dog Nut, as they will always place their pet as #1. When I do though I will immediately recall moments during the two year courtship where I was driven crazy by her dog and by her lack of discipline. So hard to acclimate to her on the dog then became the mothers problem was. 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